lborgia88
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I agree, this guy does sound like he has mental problems. Lord knows I never want to yell at people, but I think this guy needs to be told in no uncertain terms that he's a creep and that he'd better stay the hell away from you, and your son's daycare. If that doesn't work, get the police involved. It wouldn't surprise me at all if they already know who this guy is. I had a similar, but less creepy, experience with a stalker once.
Years ago, in grad school, I was a teaching assistant in Kent, Ohio. There was a campus bus service that ran all over Kent and the surrounding areas, including the next town over, which was the county seat and had some sort of "half-way house" for people with mental problems who weren't considered dangerous. Anyway, one of the residents of this place would, at random periods of time, start taking the bus to the campus and come to the history department (his deceased father had been a prof there years earlier). The first time I encountered him, I was alone in the room where all the TAs had their desks, and this guy who was clearly not exactly right in the head came in, plunked himself down in a chair in front of my desk and said "I want to ask you a historical question!" Nice little me, I actually chit-chatted with him for a minute, as he said even stranger things, and then I said "I have to go to class now. You have to leave too!" and I took off. I went upstairs to where the faculty offices were, and told my advisor what had happened. My advisor had been in the history dept. for a few decades, had known the crazy guy's father, and told me who this guy was, and that he had been coming around the history dept. for years. However, the crazy guy became fixated with me, and kept coming around the TA room, asking where "that blond" was, and would leave weird "love offerings" on my desk (usually sheets of paper he'd pulled from recycling bins near the photocopiers). The graduate coordinator heard of this and told us TAs that since it was a state university, open to the public, he couldn't be barred from the building, but that we TAs should tell him that he couldn't come in the TA room unless he was student taking a history class. I generally managed to avoid him (other TAs would tip me off if they'd seen him), and after a while, he stopped coming around. About a year later, my adviser got a collect call, out of the blue, from the crazy guy, who had apparently just been committed to a state mental facility that he was unable to leave. My advisor wasn't able to learn exactly what the guy had done, that got him committed, and I wasn't sure I really wanted to know anyway!
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17-06-2008 18:03
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SJ_SwanJun
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Thanks, guys, for confirming that it isn't just my instincts over reacting on this.
I think I'm going to have a long sit down with Flash this afternoon and discuss a game plan. I think my first plan might be getting Joshie into a new daycare.
The issue with that is availability. Here in Toronto getting a pre-school position is pretty tough - and damn expensive! $50 a day ... yeah ... A DAY. And they won't be as personalized as his current providers, who he loves like grandparents. Joshie is doing so awesome with these people.
That might be an over reaction, but the fact he brings up Josh's daycare does alarm me somewhat.
:purses lips: Maybe I'll get Flash to go in late and he can take both Josh and I in and then have a little man-to-creep chat with him ... sans baseball bat and chainsaw of course...for now...
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Years ago, in grad school, I was a teaching assistant in Kent, Ohio. There was a campus bus service that ran all over Kent and the surrounding areas, including the next town over, which was the county seat and had some sort of "half-way house" for people with mental problems who weren't considered dangerous. Anyway, one of the residents of this place would, at random periods of time, start taking the bus to the campus and come to the history department (his deceased father had been a prof there years earlier). The first time I encountered him, I was alone in the room where all the TAs had their desks, and this guy who was clearly not exactly right in the head came in, plunked himself down in a chair in front of my desk and said "I want to ask you a historical question!" Nice little me, I actually chit-chatted with him for a minute, as he said even stranger things, and then I said "I have to go to class now. You have to leave too!" and I took off. I went upstairs to where the faculty offices were, and told my advisor what had happened. My advisor had been in the history dept. for a few decades, had known the crazy guy's father, and told me who this guy was, and that he had been coming around the history dept. for years. However, the crazy guy became fixated with me, and kept coming around the TA room, asking where "that blond" was, and would leave weird "love offerings" on my desk (usually sheets of paper he'd pulled from recycling bins near the photocopiers). The graduate coordinator heard of this and told us TAs that since it was a state university, open to the public, he couldn't be barred from the building, but that we TAs should tell him that he couldn't come in the TA room unless he was student taking a history class. I generally managed to avoid him (other TAs would tip me off if they'd seen him), and after a while, he stopped coming around. About a year later, my adviser got a collect call, out of the blue, from the crazy guy, who had apparently just been committed to a state mental facility that he was unable to leave. My advisor wasn't able to learn exactly what the guy had done, that got him committed, and I wasn't sure I really wanted to know anyway! |
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Damn and double damn ... Now that is scary.
That had the potential of becoming dangerous! Glad your fellow TAs had your back there!
I've had this happen once before back when I was working in football and some Indian guy stalked me all over the city. It only took one discussion with about ten footballers for him to back off.
sigh ...
Thanks again guys
SJ
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17-06-2008 18:26
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Hinotori
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17-06-2008 22:14
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Rory
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Dear SJ,
I don't know if this will help you. I've personally had a nasty experience with a stalker in the past. The stalker even happened to be female and who was jealous of me because I had a close friendship with a certain celebrity in my country.
What to do:
1. Never confront the stalker ALONE. You will only make matters worse and it will actually make the stalker more brave to do what he or she is doing. From what I've observed, they actually revel in the attention that is being given to them and they will do more and more dangerous things just to get that attention.
2. Get the police involved. If you cannot confront the guy with a cop, try to make their job a lot easier by taking a picture of the stalker. If you are not able to take his picture, at least ask help from the daycare center or a neighbor close by to take photos of suspicious persons. This would make for easy identification of the suspect.
3. While changing daycare centers may seem like a good option, stalkers will ALWAYS find a way to locate where your child's new daycare center will be. It may seem like paranoid behavior, but keep the information of your child's new daycare center an ABSOLUTE SECRET.
4. It may be very, very difficult, but NEVER ENTRUST YOUR CHILD'S SAFETY TO ANYONE, even friends or relatives. If necessary, give strict rules to the daycare center staff to never leave your child out of their sight. Tell your child to always be with a group of friends. Try to devise a way between you and your husband to bring and fetch your child to and from the center.
I hope this helps in some way. Whatever you do, ALWAYS BE VIGILANT. If you can find a way to identify the stalker and report him to the police, the better.
Sincerely,
Rory
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17-06-2008 22:51
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Hinotori
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