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Posted by amethyst on 09-05-2012 at 00:55:
He can be taught! My brother at least.
Mom fell again today. Going down the stairs again. I know if I were there, it may not have happened, or if it had, would have only been a lift assist call to the Fire Department. But at least this time there are no broken bones. My oldest was with her, so at least she wasn't alone and the neighbor was outside to help him along with what he needed to do. It is kind of scary to know that my younger two could handle it easier than him, but that's life with a young adult with HFA/AS/ADHD/ and whatever else is still on his list of diagnosis.
When my brother called me after getting a message from his ex (she's the only one who can get him directly on the base), he asked if he was needed and explained that he was doing drills and that getting out would be really difficult.
This conversation went exactly like I imagined the first one should have. No, things aren't urgent, I'll keep you advised of any updates or changes.
I know some of it was having my DH with me in case I needed a break, and some of it was knowing that my brother was at work and not off playing or messing around, but a lot of it was just the fact that it was not assumed that I could take care of everything.
I don't mind if I know everyone else is doing something important or unable to get away at a moments notice. I just don't like it being assumed that I'm the one who's going to do it.
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Posted by ChrisW on 09-05-2012 at 01:00:
What a relief that must be! Crossing my fingers that this improvement will continue. 
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Posted by ElectricWhite on 09-05-2012 at 01:04:
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Posted by clouddancer on 09-05-2012 at 01:15:
Glad to hear things have gotten better with your relationship with your brother.
Sorry to hear you Mother had another fall.
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Posted by Springie on 09-05-2012 at 01:20:
Glad your mom is ok! Also, glad to know that your brother is not taking you for granted!
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Posted by amethyst on 09-05-2012 at 01:39:
Thanks!
I told Becky in an email that falls seem to be getting better, now if we can just get them to stop happening.
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Posted by ChrisW on 09-05-2012 at 01:57:
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Put her in one of those padded fake sumo wrestler suits?
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Posted by jublke on 09-05-2012 at 03:22:
Amethyst: Glad you were less alone this time, but sorry to hear about your mom. 
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Posted by amethyst on 09-05-2012 at 04:45:
Chris, when she fell in March, one of the paramedics, who has responded to several of her calls, suggested that she be wrapped in bubble wrap..
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Posted by ChrisW on 09-05-2012 at 05:21:
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Hehe. Hopefully she found that funny. Glad to hear that the falls are at least getting less serious!
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Posted by Transmute Jun on 09-05-2012 at 14:27:
I'm glad your Mom's okay! And what a relief that your brother seems to be understanding his responsibilities a bit more!
I'm glad this worked out for you, Amethyst.
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Posted by littlewolf on 09-05-2012 at 14:50:
being sent your way
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Posted by Becky Rock on 10-05-2012 at 00:25:
I'm glad it wasn't serious, Ame. I know it seems as though everytime you get a breath, something happens.
I hate to say it, but she needs to be moved to a one-story, if that's possible. My father-in-law is having trouble with stairs, also. It's inevitable for all of us.
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Posted by lborgia88 on 10-05-2012 at 01:54:
Glad your Mom's fall wasn't too bad, amethyst -and that your brother had a better attitude this time!
Posted by amethyst on 10-05-2012 at 04:46:
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It is one story. Unfortunately, it is a mobile home in a flood prone park. She keeps saying she wants to sell it, but won't list it. I tried to list it while she was in the hospital for her broken leg last year, but she wouldn't let me. I'm not on the papers, so I couldn't actually list it, but I could have set up meetings with the realtor and let him see the place.
My brother talks like he is going to sell his home and move even closer and have her move in with him when he retires in two years. While I hope it does happen, I'll believe it when I see it.
What she needs in the meantime is a power chair and a lift for it. But we can't afford it, because she has mobility, medicare won't cover it, and lifts aren't covered anyway.
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Posted by k2p2 on 10-05-2012 at 11:09:
Sounds like she might be a candidate for some sort of assisted living arrangement.
or home health to come in and check on her.
That's what happened with my MIL, she fell and no one knew about it right away...at that point the decision was made for her...very sad...but a bit of relief as well.
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Posted by amethyst on 10-05-2012 at 17:03:
She's still too independent, or at least independently minded for assisted living and the middle step the independent retirement apartments where they just check on you daily are too expensive in our area.
She does have Life Alert though in case something happens and no one is there, but it is rare for someone to not be there or call every few days.
Home health comes, but the insurance only covers it as needed. They even came when my dad was alive to help with her foot wounds.
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Posted by clouddancer on 10-05-2012 at 21:02:
I know it took a while for my father and his sister to convince my Grandmother that she needed to stay in a home. She too was a very independent person and until a few years ago, loved to get out for walks and go visiting.
Now she has really slowed down though. I hope I am the same way when I reach her age, although maybe not as stubborn. 
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