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Posted by CricketBeautiful on 03-01-2006 at 15:30:
Rant: Hanging Rocks
It's something I've struggled with for a while, on this group and others.
Most groups, no matter how focused, end up with personal tidbits thrown in. Often, it's bad things that have happened, sometimes bad things that might get worse. Good things don't have the same urge to be shared.
Sharing of bad news is perfectly understandable. There's a rock over his head, hanging by a thread. It's pretty hard to ignore. And so even when he's taking a break, especially in a group where he's comfortable, he ends up mentioning it.
And, our hearts drop. We respond, usually with hugs and chicken soup. Sometimes with helpful advice and comments, sometimes with stuff that's intended to be helpful but isn't. And a part of our hearts is committed to the cause, to making that rock just a little bit lighter, to deflecting it just that tiny bit and make the situation bearable.
I don't mind being shown the falling rock, or being asked for a hug or support or time off, or whatever it is the person needs. I offer my that part of my heart freely, knowing that someone will do the same for me. This rant isn't about being shown the rocks.
It's about the next weeks and months. We walk carefully around the person. We don't want to ask and open bad memories. We want to respect his privacy.
But meanwhile, there's a part of our heart missing, a part that we can neither reclaim nor mourn.
For the first person, the rock has landed and rolled away. Life moves on.
But the rock is left hanging over a piece of my heart.
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Posted by Metaliant on 23-02-2006 at 12:06:
That's beautiful.
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Posted by Ashke on 06-03-2006 at 16:53:
And accurate! Fortunately time heals all wounds, supposedly. Makes me feel very grateful nothing bad has happened to me lately.
Posted by imaqtz on 07-03-2006 at 15:11:
Poignant in its simplicity and delivery Cricket. Thankyou for sharing it with us.
Do consider sharing this sentiment with this guy.
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Posted by gatchgirl on 08-03-2006 at 23:45:
nicely said, makes me think of things with more of an open mind
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Posted by Cep on 11-03-2006 at 10:32:
Oo *psst* Imi new member!
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Posted by Ashke on 14-03-2006 at 03:02:
*Grabs camera to film the approaching mayhem* Poor Gatchgirl, she doesn't stand a chance . . . .
Posted by gatchgirl on 14-03-2006 at 17:19:
Why do you say that Ashke????
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Posted by CricketBeautiful on 14-03-2006 at 21:18:
Cricket stands by, waiting while things take their course.
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Posted by imaqtz on 17-03-2006 at 12:58:
*sweetest most angelic smile*
I really dont know what they are talking about gatchgirl. I already gave you the cutest and most friendly welcome on your intro thread . 
( 
to the rest of you! um, I do believe this newbie is a minor? )
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Posted by gatchgirl on 17-03-2006 at 23:26:
Guess I'm just not letting my mind get away with me ( at least NOT yet!!!!) 
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Posted by gatchgirl on 17-03-2006 at 23:27:
Just so ya know, I'm long past the minor stage but thanks!
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Posted by Firebird on 18-03-2006 at 14:16:
LOL see Imi fair game for the Imicondor
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Posted by Metaliant on 19-03-2006 at 12:43:
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Posted by imaqtz on 19-03-2006 at 14:31:
I see and have already corrected the lapse in Imicondor etiquette. ( So much for hanging up those leathers *lopsided smile*)
Have ensured Gatchgirl has had not only the Frisking treatment but has graduated to the Rubber Room , with Metaliant as well. ( Hence the smile , I assume?) 
Sadly Ashke's camera was not present to film the debauchery.
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Posted by Buffy on 19-03-2006 at 15:12:
*Buffy wanders into the thread...
And here I thought this was a thread on the tribs of creating an exciting variation of the classic zen rock garden! *grin*
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Posted by Firebird on 20-03-2006 at 13:06:
*stashes away the tapes from the secret cameras, including several copies handed to other Gatchamania members and whistles innocently*
Shsh dont tell Imi about how small cameras can be and how everyday item they can look 
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Posted by imaqtz on 21-03-2006 at 14:43:
LOL . God love ya, Id almost forgotten about your spritely ways hon.
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Posted by imaqtz on 21-03-2006 at 14:45:
speaking of which I'd almost forgotten what the whole thread was about. !!
.sowwy Cricket.
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Posted by Buffy on 21-03-2006 at 18:19:
Best way past hanging rocks is creative dodging!
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