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Posted by amethyst on 06-09-2014 at 02:27:

Unable to rant on Facebook

Sorry, for putting this personal rant up here (yeah, I know that is what the forum is for), but I cannot put it on Facebook.

I've gone two months without a paycheck, and it shows. If I pay the bills I don't have money for food, if I buy food, I don't have the money to pay the bills. In trouble no matter what I do.

I can't put this on Facebook, because my SiL would see it and it would get back to my in-laws who would blame it all on me not being fiscally savvy enough to stretch nod dollar into five. They see my husband making as much as his father did in the 1980's, in which they comfortably raised two kids, but a house with acreage, and still had money to put away. They don't see the raising property rates, the cost of inflation, or that we have three kids instead of two.

They see me as being young, ignorant, and foolish enough to get pregnant without being married. I often wonder if they blamed me I when my SiL did the same thing by a coworker just a few years younger then them, while she was living with another man.

Anyway, sorry for taking time and space. I just needed to let off steam.

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Posted by ChrisW on 06-09-2014 at 03:53:

Ouch, Ame. Frown *hugs* That's a rough position to be in on so many fronts. The very people you should be able to turn to for help or support ... :/

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Posted by KT1972 on 06-09-2014 at 07:13:

Huggles Ame,

Not to mention the fact that annual cost of living expenses often increases twice as much as the annual wage increase... (well it does here in the UK, I assume it's similar over there.)

But two months without pay? Ouch! Your In-laws should be rallying around to help, if not for you, but for their own grandchildren, if they're so concerned.

I know there's no easy solution (short of an unexpected cash windfall), but I hope things work out quickly.

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Posted by ElectricWhite on 06-09-2014 at 12:32:

Well, let's see...there's an asteroid that's supposed to pass close to Earth tomorrow. Maybe a chunk of it will break off and crash into your yard, and that piece turns out to be made of gold, and nobody else notices that it hit your yard....

Silly fantasies aside, even though my circumstances were different, I know what it's like to have the people who should be on your side make matters worse by being against you. Unfortunately, I don't know of anything that can help on that front. But I'm in your corner, rooting for you.

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Posted by Daniella T on 06-09-2014 at 19:22:

Dear Ame, anyone who compares the 1980s with the economic situation today should not be taken seriously!

I'm sorry I can only offer words...but for whatever it's worth...

GO AME!

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Posted by rachel on 07-09-2014 at 16:43:

It seems in-laws bring headaches to a maeried woman in both East and West. The main reason i deleted all postings was my sil. She had reported every contents on my facebook to her mother. It really did trouble.

These days i am staying my in laws for 10days(holydays+vvvcations!!!) because of Korean thanks giving holydays. Married women are mean to stay with husband's parents. Parents in law live in a distant city they can't meet their son often. So they want us to stay the whole holidays. I feel like i'm in a jail. My in laws are exactly the same with yours, they are stuck in their old world where a man could carry a family with his earnings. Funny thing is that mil doesn't seem to be like that when she talk with her oen daughter.

Mil has a rubber ruller. Whenever she measures me she stratches it out as much as possible. I just swear i would not be the same person to my daugher in law in the future. I think trying conversation is just usuless in these cases. They just have lived in this way, if i accuse them it is not right bla bla, i know they would feel like i'm disobaying to their rules and it means i do not respect thier world, it could also mean that i'm denying thier very existence.

It was wise that you didn't post this problems on your facebook. Aside from in laws, it is not good thing to let people arond you know your troubles. They could give you some soothing words but at least one of them put you under her heels,reading your writings. Let your steams out here! Though i cant give you direct support, it is really helpful to scream out the words inside of you.

I visited here to see B-jar but it's too late. I need to go to sleep see you on next Thursday!

Posted by ChrisW on 07-09-2014 at 20:36:

I feel so lucky that I get along with my inlaws. (Not that I love them 100% of the time.) I find my own family far more stressful. Though, I must confess the last time my inlaws visited I might have wanted to choke someone a few times. Smile

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Posted by Becky Rock on 14-09-2014 at 02:48:

Huggles Huggles Maybe its time hubby has a talk with his parents about today's version of real life. There's never any easy answers. I won't go into my feelings about the economy and the way our government pretends everything is all hunky-dory now.

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Posted by jublke on 27-09-2014 at 01:40:

Ame - Sending you lots of hugs. I wish I had more to offer.

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