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Posted by Ashke on 19-06-2004 at 02:55:
Child rearing
ACK! What is it about kids hitting the double digets that makes 'em think they rule the world? My daughter turned ten two weeks ago and now thinks she can walk to and from school by herself, stay at home instead of daycare, and bring her friends over without warning me first!
*Sigh* I feel a migraine coming on 
Posted by Firebird on 19-06-2004 at 09:32:
When they hit the double digits the start testing boundaries in different ways.
If you dont set and reinforce the ground rules now it gets worse in teen years.
The taking self to and from school is just wanting some independence if you explain the reasons why she cant right now she will respect you for it else maybe reach a compromise let her go to and from with a friend who lives nearby that you trust?
With regards to the lack of daycare you guessed it more explaining about the law and the fact she is underaged to be left home unsupervised and that she has to go daycare.
The last is just getting her to understand that not everyone likes surprise visits and if she asks first which as a child she still has to do (contrary to their beliefs) she may be told its fine otherwise there could be reasons why she cant have them over on that day.
My son went through this wonderful period inviting people in to his room etc which he had forgotten to clean. So he was quiet strongly told no guests til his rooms clean and without asking permission first. We had a long chat afterwards and he did understand and yes did actually listen.
Good luck with your daughter Ashke. 
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Posted by Cep on 19-06-2004 at 14:49:
Just do what my mam did, give em a good hiydin!
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Posted by Tengu on 19-06-2004 at 14:54:
Why not run away from home now...before they beat you to it
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Posted by Ashke on 20-06-2004 at 00:18:
Thanks for the advice FB! Though I must admit that I like Cep and Tengu's ideas better! LOL! Thanks guys.
Posted by Firebird on 21-06-2004 at 18:41:
Rotfl
I like their advice too pity it came too late for me mines 16 now.
I have also become an auntie again so guess my fate is sealed.
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Posted by Ashke on 03-07-2004 at 02:34:
Ack! Scary stuff! Could be worse, at least your not a Grandma! *fingers crossed*
Posted by imaqtz on 03-07-2004 at 18:53:
Ill take the fear of ever becoming a granparent any day over the TERROR OF RAISING TEENAGEERS!!!!!!
I mean they suddenly speak a different language, everything you say shall and will be taken as a personal affront, they suddenly know everything, rolling their eyes , when you try to give advice.. and wait till you get the DEATH GLARE that freezes hell over, if you even DARE to walk in their room unannounced!!! 
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Posted by Tengu on 03-07-2004 at 19:10:
I think I will get myself sterilised; It will make a great conversation stopper...
(The other great conversation stopper of mine is "Im sorry, I did not see that show; I have no TV.")
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Posted by Firebird on 04-07-2004 at 15:16:
My son knows better than to make me a granny anytime soon.
I want him to be a kid first before he is a parent. At the moment he is looking at doing a training scheme having just finished school.
He passed 5 out of 6 exams (though still waiting another result).
He has told me what he wants to do and I have to be honest here he is aware the things he wants he needs to work for and he is prepared to do that.
On the whole despite the death glares ( 
) He is a pretty good kid and I am very proud of him
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Posted by imaqtz on 04-07-2004 at 17:12:
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And THATS what its all about in the end isnt it?...despite the times of frustration, or tears over bruised knees or egos, throughout their trials and tribulations at school with friends with growing up..we love and are proud of our little darlings..
thats a heartwarming sentiment FB.
<ah crikey...no more wine for me tonight!>
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Posted by imaqtz on 06-07-2004 at 17:58:
Found a pic tonight that had me chuckling ....
Reason why kids need parenting, why Buff and Yuki shouldnt leave their bubba's to be with siblings, and why you end up with a wierd smile in a situation like the pic....you know, THAT smile...the one thats between wanting to laugh and cry in frustration at the same time!@
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Posted by CricketBeautiful on 06-07-2004 at 19:44:
Cricket runs upstairs to check.
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Posted by Ashke on 13-07-2004 at 05:40:
LOL! Oh My! That picture is definitely something that would happen at my home! (Except it was a cat and glitter glue. Poor thing had bald spots for months!)
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